You are more than your job title

Any other Monday, we would all be getting dressed and ready for our jobs, chasing kids trying to ready them for school or doing whatever it is we "do" on a regular basis. But today is Labor Day, so we take a break, a day of rest from our normal.

Which got me thinking about the role our jobs play in our lives. 

The amount of job titles out there is kind of staggering. It's amazing that we have the freedom to pursue our dreams, work towards goals and even get paid for working.

But sometimes in the midst of going to and from work and home, the delicate balancing act we all play in some way or another, we can get lost in that job title. 

At some point- whenever we cross the gap from childhood into adulthood- people stop asking us what we want to


and instead as us what we


. As if everything we are is encompassed in this one word that we get paid to do- waitress, teacher, ceo, lawyer, stay at home mom or perhaps even (God-forbid) unemployed. All our lives we are encouraged to dream about who we want to be when we grow up but once you are handed that diploma, or if you don't get one of those it's even sooner, we are expected to know who we are and stop dreaming- most of who we are is wrapped up in a job title. 

But in reality we are so much more than that. I'm not just a stay at home mom or a writer. I'm a friend, a daughter, a wife, an introvert, someone who dreams of owning her own coffee shop, someone who really wants to travel the world, and someone who has a really immature sense of humor sometimes. 

You're not


a teacher or a student or a writer or the drive through guy at Wendy's. 

I think it is a little disheartening that we unknowingly place ourselves in the limiting box of "what do you do?" Our job title is only a small piece of the complexities and intricacies that make us up. 

So this Labor Day, as you're taking a break from what you do, pause to think about who you really are. So that next time someone asks you what you do, you can answer with more than a job title. 

So tell me, friends. What do you do? 

Ramblings on Calling

I mentioned in a previous post my lack of real "career aspirations" growing up. I had dreams, don't get me wrong, but most of those dreams strangely didn't include a "normal" 9-5 job. I wanted to write and play music for a living for a long time, mostly because I could do that from home and music has alway been a passion. I wanted to be a ballerina too, but that dream ended with a nasty fall onto a stone fireplace mantle while dancing to my dad's banjo tunes. When I was five. I wanted to be a rodeo queen and a archaeologist and an actress- all the things little girls with big imaginations pretend to be. But as I got older, my dreams were never about one thing I wanted to do when I grew up and my future seemed more foggy.

When I started college I struggled for a long time with choosing a major. I was interested in many, many things- reading, writing, psychology, teaching, music, art, history- but I couldn't picture any of them being my entire life. I love learning, and being in classes, and living the college life. But college is just the normal "next step" after high school, so thats what I did.

I enjoyed all my classes, and did well, but the more I focused in on my English Education major, the fuzzier it seemed in my mind. I'm passionate about teaching, reading, writing and passing on a legacy to the next generation, but somehow being a teacher just didn't feel right in my mind.

Then I got pregnant.

*Disclaimer: I am in no way endorsing random pregnancies as a way to get out of making important career decisions. That's just how it happened to me.*

Now that I'm past all the confusion, doubt, and disappointment that came with my pregnancy and subsequent dropping out of school (for the time being. I have every intention of finishing.), and trust me, there was a lot of it, I can see with absolute clarity that being a mommy to my little E, and a wife to AJ is exactly what I'm supposed to do. The decision not to go back to school right away was not an easy one to make, I cried the day I made it official, but I knew that I needed to devote all my energy to growing a healthy baby, working and then raising her.

Through all these crazy changes, I've decided that maybe your "calling" in life changes as you go. Maybe there isn't one thing everyone is meant to do, but instead, maybe we are called to simply do the best we can in every situation life throws at us. Maybe I will be a teacher someday. Maybe I'll be a musician, or a rodeo queen, or a business woman (though I kind of doubt it). But the one thing I know regardless of what my next "calling" is, I will always be Evie's mommy and AJ's wife and that is something I want to pour all of my energy into for the time being.