Self Care with Curie || Everyday Elegance

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The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years.
— Audrey Hepburn

Self-care isn't a one-size-fits all event. For some, it's making space for a long, quiet run in the morning before the rest of the world is awake. For others, it's spending an afternoon alone in a cozy cafe people watching or catching up with a friend. Caring for your self doesn't have to look a certain way, it doesn't have to be planned, take a long time, or even be expensive. Self care is simply whatever makes you feel like you. Whatever helps you feel refreshed after a long day. Rejuvenated. Revived. 

As a mom of two toddlers and a self-proclaimed lover of solitude, self care usually involves alone time and something that feels "extravagant", be it a pour over at my favorite coffee shop or a mini-spa night at home. True extravagance (involving spending a lot of money) is rare, but luckily, it doesn't take much for me to feel refreshed - although entire days dedicated to self care are definitely appreciated and recommended ;) 

Lately, I've been staying home with my girls for the majority of the day, so true moments of peace and quiet are few and far between. When I do get those treasured moments of silence though, I'm dead set on creating the perfect ambiance, whether I'm taking a bath or writing a blog post. When it's the former "self care event" I've been relying on the help of a good candle, some essential oils, maybe a glass of wine, and my favorite Curie products to help set the mood. Whether it's ten minutes or an hour, creating the ambiance with things I love and products that make me feel "pampered" is a surefire way to help me feel more like "me" and less like hot mess mom of two never-tiring toddlers.

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If you've followed along for the past few months, you've heard about Curie several times. I've been using their Bella Flor perfume and lotion for the majority of this year and love that their brand focuses on small batch, organic, artisan created fragrance, instead of chemical-laden, mass produced scents.

After acquainting myself with Curie, I decided to broaden my relationship with their beautiful line of products and try their shower kit. If it smelled anything like their Bella Flor perfume did I knew I'd be hooked. 

Not surprisingly, their shampoo/conditioner/body wash trio is just as impressive, fragrant, and effective as their other products I've tried. Something about Curie exudes simple elegance and I love how just opening a bottle of their body wash feels like a quick moment of indulgence. The rest of my "beauty routine" is fairly minimal and sometimes non-existent, but when it comes to what I use to wash my hair and body, I'm oddly picky. To find something that checks boxes in everything from effectiveness, to ethics, to gorgeous branding makes me feel pretty cared for. 

Other than the occasional semi-extravagant DIY spa evening at home, I feel cared for and refreshed when I'm taking in the sights and drinking slowly brewed coffee at a new coffee shop, when I'm writing (not for my job), and when my home and closet feel intentionally organized and beautiful. 

Now you tell me, what's your "self-care style" and how are you making it a priority? Here are some of the responses I got on my Instagram photo from last night (I LOVED reading what makes you feel like YOU.)

  • "I take a walk on the beach or wok on a painting" - @happilyemerson
  • "Drinking a glass of wine on the back patio by myself while I watch the sunset." - @purposefullyminimal
  • "Well, no bathtub in my house, so turning off screens, using all the essential oils, going outside, reading..." - @sb.monhollon
  • "We go on a nightly walk together!" - @the.minimalist.kin
  • "Definitely spending time watering and caring for my plants, diffusing oils, doing a face mask, and probably drinking an iced coffee" - @emmmma_rhodes
  • "I go to gym classes, and push myself hard! I bike to the farmers market, and then bake for the whole day." - @EthicallyKate
  • "I love being alone in bed with a book and a glass of wine. No boyfriend, no family, just me." - @unpetitsourireslowsdown

*This post was part of an ongoing partnership with Curie. All thoughts and photographs are my own. Thank you for supporting the brands that keep SL&Co. running (and make you feel good in the process ;)*

Slow Living || Using Social Media For Good Around Your Kids

We interrupt our normal mess of fashion related posts to bring you a topic of a different kind. Something, in fact, that I've been holding off on writing about because, admittedly, I'm terrible at it. But if I've learned anything from blogging and the authenticity that goes along with it, it's that the posts that I avoid writing the longest are usually the ones most worth writing. 

I often sing the praises of "slow and intentional". And I believe in that lifestyle wholeheartedly. I try, as best I can in a world that promotes more/faster/better/haphazard, to slow down, make my choices from a place of intention, and to raise my girls to do the same. I'm an advocate for "boredom" and schedule as much intentional downtime into my 4 & 2 year old's lives as possible. But there's one area that I've always struggled to use intentionally, especially around my girls, and it's one that I already know I'm not alone in. 

Social Media. 

Of course, my girls are far too young to have their own devices or social media outlets, but the reality is that they've been born into the "digital age" and navigating that reality as a parent is far from easy. I think both my daughters understood how to work an iPhone from the time they were 18- months old. They both can run Netflix without help, answer my phone, and even like wasting time with Instagram filters with me. 

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It can seem harmless and, of course, to some extent it is, but raising children in a world so immersed in social media, connection, and immediacy means that things like comparison, discontent, self-loathing, and wandering into unsafe "online territory" can begin happening at younger ages than ever before. 

To give some balance to the fear that can drive parenting, I've determined to never parent from a "sheltered" or fear-based line of thought. So, of course, I'm not hiding my girls from all social media or pretending like it doesn't exist. However, I'm equally determined to "use social media for good" in my family - despite the times I've failed to do so. 

Here are a few habits I'm hoping to implement more consistently in my day to day to teach my girls that social media can be used for good, but that it's not the "be all end all". 


1. Set specific times to post/check social media

I put this tip first because it's the one I fail at most often. I'm on my phone around my girls ALL THE TIME and although I don't feel like I have to be off it entirely, limiting my own screentime, especially around them, trains us both to value each other's company and detach from social media all the more. 

This is one of the "cornerstones" of my Social Media Detox from several years ago and, starting now, I'm hoping to make it less of a detox routine and more of an everyday habit. 

2. Be intentional with who you follow

Although this may not seem to directly impact your kids, they'll pick up on more than you realize. If you follow accounts that cause you discontent or to compare yourself in unhealthy ways, those feelings will bleed into your day to day life. The occasional sigh when you look in the mirror or exclamation that you "wish you looked more like so and so" can stick with your kids longer than you'd ever intend. 

Instead, follow accounts that inspire and uplift you.

3.  Decide ahead of time how/when your kids can "sign on"

Having a plan in advance when it comes to social media and your kids is a simple way to reduce anxiety and parent intentionally. They'll know, as they get older, what your expectations are and how social media fits into their lives at a particular phase. 

4. Teach them from a young age to unplug

A balance that is easier to imagine than achieve, setting boundaries with screen time/social media is tricky regardless of whether your kids are in school or daycare, whether you work from home with them, or a combination of it all. For me, since my job is entirely online, I try to keep the days when I work while my kids are "plugged into" Netflix to a minimum. Instead, I let them play and make messes around me while I work - not simple, inspiring, or easy most of the time, but it creates a balance between work and play that I think is crucial for kids. 


How have you decided to use social media in your household? I'd love to hear all of the tips and ideas!

Motherhood & Ethical Fashion

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I’m frequently asked what the “catalyst” was for my obsession with ethics and living a “slow, conscious lifestyle”. What drove you to this point? Have you always lived an “eco-friendly” life? Was there a tipping point when you quit fast fashion?

And my answer, always, without hesitation, is when I became a mom.

Of course, motherhood is laced with responsibility and exhaustion and keeping another human (or two or three) alive and mostly clean, but, what I wasn’t expecting was the (literal and figurative) wake-up call that becoming a mom would be for my lifestyle.

I got pregnant at 19. I wasn’t married, although I was with the man I intended to marry, if that counts. I had no idea how to hold a newborn baby, much less grow one inside my body, give birth to it, and then assume the title of “mom”. Life, at that point, was chaotic, exciting, stressful, and a mess. As most new moms can relate to, the act of “becoming a mom” isn’t simple, smooth, or easy in the least. Rather, it’s filled with life-changes, irreversible body alterations, unmet plans, and of course, lots and lots of excitement and love.

Evie, my oldest, was born a few months after I turned 20, and I loved her fiercely. I still do, for the record. But what does all of this have to do with ethics or where I choose to buy something as simple as a basic white tee?

Simply put, it has everything to do with it.

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